You know it is during the simplest of life’s moments that the most profound lessons are often discovered (or re-discovered).
This was just the case today while I sat watching my son eat ice cream. This was his ‘reward’ for being brave – having just had staples removed from the back of his head. (The result of a glass table vs. Coop moment while I was in Vancouver. If you think the phone call sharing the news might have caused a small heart attack….you are correct.)
It was as I was mesmerized by Coop’s joy and fixation that the lessons popped into my head one at a time.
Savor. Savor life, savor food, savor relationships. Coop tackled his cone one. lick. at. a. time. In between he would stop to look…making sure he wasn’t missing a drop. If only I savored every meal, every moment like this.
Family should never be far from your mind. As the small dude savored the creamy moments, a ‘look’ developed in his eyes. He tilted his head and said, “we have to get something to take home for my sister.”
This also leads to lesson #3 – even when I feel as though I might drown from the guilt I feel – worrying if I am equipping my children with the necessary tools to be powerful adults, I get a big, “would you relax already?” in the form of a 3 year old who I have clearly taught compassion and a sharing heart.
Stop eating when you aren’t hungry anymore. Seriously? This shouldn’t be a surprise….and yet…. The kid ate about 3/4 of the ice cream cone and decided he was done. So he stopped. Me? I MUST.FINISH. Changing that immediately.
Smile, at everyone. I try to do this, but there is something so innocent when done by a child – and even better? The reactions he gets from strangers. He smiles, they smile. So, if I smile, do you smile?
The quality of our time together matters as much as the amount of time. It was more important to Cooper than I was THERE, right then. That I wasn’t multi-tasking, answering a call or email, or on twitter. That I was staring at him while he ate and laughing. He didn’t care that we were only there for 30 minutes. He just cared that it was ‘Mommy and Cooper’ time. I may not be able to sit and stare at my kids all day, every day, soaking up their zest for life, but I can make time to do it on a regular basis.
For me – having this time to just observe my son, well…..it was priceless. It was just what I needed to refocus on what is most important in my world…my family and the joy they inject into my days.